21/10/2005
Karva Chauth - afterthoughts
Also, I do want to fervently mention that the fast is not about the husbands. It's not about their lives either.
It is about the notion of life. Perhaps some of the peace I observed in the faces of other women at the puja was because they were celebrating life itself and praying for an extension, if possible.
And yet in that sentence, I have managed to completely contradict myself. For as I started out, it is my belief that this special day is a complete selfish act on the part of the woman.
Can devotion be selfish, you ask? Yes, it can and should.
So for any of you men out there who are still sweating it out, let it go. It's not really about you.
Lastly, one cannot ignore the economic implications of such traditions. Are women dependent on men culturally? Yes. It never ceases to amaze me in just how many different ways.
Just as the thought that occured to me a few days ago that female foeticide is OK and goes hand in hand with pro-choice! This will however have to wait for another post.
Will a time come when men will fast for women (given role reversal - Who wd have thought that husbands wd ever want to sweat it out in a kitchen....)? As a woman, I am not sure I would want to give my fast up.
Which brings me to another emerging practice where both the husband and wife decide to fast and pray together. It's not done at large or we could plan for a circle of women exchanging talis and a circle of men exchanging thalis. We could even dig up a story for the men.
It is a whole world of opportunities out there, folks!
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I have one friend who do fast on same day with her wife.....DDLJ style......Nice blog u have.
Posted by: Tarun | 28/10/2005
In a world which is subject to ego bashing, these thought's are natural.
It requires two hands to clap and create a ripple.
Letz not be a Male or a Female Chauvanist here.
Treat each other as equal's in a world full of inequities. Sound's philosophical isn't it ?
Then the institution of marriage is a BIG Question ?
U wouldn't be here otherwise ?
Posted by: Santosh | 11/11/2005
hi there, kyaa hua...long time no write? Write na something :-D
Posted by: shanti | 04/01/2006
Alright. I was trying to digest why Karva chauth was ok and why it might be a great tradition. In my opinion it really boils down to feelings and how you treat or how much importance you give it. One could easily dismiss this as plain bull but then again one may feel compelled to do it because they WANT to as somehow it brings meaning, and renews those vows that are so sacred to the marriage of two souls.
Anyhow what I really want to know is why anyone on earth would think female foeticide is ok?
Posted by: Divya | 09/01/2006
Female Chauvanist
isn't it? Or you have written this based on a few samples try to look another brighter side of sociatly.
Still wold say, Good job done!
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Priya... you've been an awfully quiet Macedonian dwarf! Write something. It appears that Deepan has also gone into hibernation.
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Posted by: Anand | 06/02/2006
Hi Anand,
Sorry about that - - I moved :)
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though you are right - i have become very quiet :)
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Posted by: Erotik | 28/08/2006
i no sum people who also fasts fr there bloved even bfor marriage 2 n i dnt think k if women r fasting fr there hubbies its wrong or its a exploitation ow wmens.
coz its in our culture k womens r doing this fr ages n its the trust they r having on god that matters.
if u people belives in god n ur religion n tradition then u should go fr the fast or otherwise nt, this is wat i think.
i m unmarried n if my wife dsnt wnt 2 fast fr me it dsnt matters 2 me. the thing matters is love between us n faith n fr the the hicc ups of life god is there.
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Posted by: hooka | 27/08/2008
Hi Mansi,
Just read your views on Karva-Chauth and how you celebrated it. Nice read. Would you like to share an excerpt from the same for a newspaper story in Australia. I write for ‘Indian Link’ and live in Sydney, doing a story on Indian Festivals during October. One of them is Karva Chauth and I liked your story. Do advise if you want to be a part of it. All you need to do is send in your photo (with hubby dear / high resolution) and a ‘yes’ to use the excerpt from your blog.
You can have a look at my work by logging in www.indianlink.com.au (pg 49 in the latest issue which is available online)
Any concerns, get in touch at shwetaaguptaa@yahoo.com
Cheers, Shweta Sirohi Gupta
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